these women are living in a fairy tale. get a grip times are changing! there too many women too many you have to have a open mind with men, anything can happen every few years people do not cherrish marrisge anymore leave finesse alone hes right about alot of things!!

Finesse, you need to quit. You, giving advice to black women? Stop it! You know so much, yet you married a beautiful woman who is NOT black. So you preach but you don't follow. Stop that. You are officially TYPICAL. Successful Black Man seeking anything BUT a Beautiful Black Woman. Perhaps you are writing for the wrong magazine.

HI FINESSE, I AM CURRENTLY FILING FOR DIVORCE FROM MY HUSBAND OF ALMOST 11 YRS. I HAVE A DAUGHTER WITH HIM AND I CAN'T TOTALLY IGNORE HIM BEACUSE OF HER, BUT IAM HURTING SO BADLY BECAUSE I FOUND OUT HE HAS BEEN CHEATING THROUGHOUT MOST OF OUR MARRIAGE. WHAT IS AN EASY WAY TO KEEP DISTANCE BETWEEN US AND FOR ME TO HEAL?