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Gossipmongers have done a lot of irresponsible things under the guise of entertainment, but making false reports about family deaths is the biggest mistake. Neffeteria "Neffe" Pugh, the eldest sister of R&B princess Keyshia Cole and costar of  BET's docuseries "The Way It Is," received news that their mother Frankie had passed. Before riniging the alarm, Neffe found out that her mom was safe and sound. ESSENCE.com caught up with Neffe to set the record straight about those crazy rumors, wedding plans, and why she's not freeloading on her sister.

ESSENCE.COM: A rumor began that you mother Frankie had passed away. Is that true?
NEFFE: No. I haven't the slightest idea where the rumor began, but Wendy Williams reported on her radio show that my mother had been in a car accident and died. I was at home in Atlanta and had just dropped my mom off the night before, so I knew it wasn't true. Even my mom said, "Why would someone say that? I don't know where Wendy got her information, but my mom's probably at home sleeping right now. We spoke and she's fine.

ESSENCE.COM: Wow, how do you cope with all this gossip?
NEFFE: We take the good with the bad. I've been dealing with it probably more than my mom; like the rumor that I was pregnant again, which I am not. I don't make up rumors because it's putting out bad karma. My mom doesn't even want to leave the house now until this passes over. You have to take it for what it's worth, pray and just deal with it.

ESSENCE.COM: The blogosphere loves your mom Frankie and every chance they get they are documenting her and criticizing her actions. Do you ever try to talk to your mom about her actions or does she just shut you down and let you know she's grown?
NEFFE: Most definitely, I've talked to her about her behavior and did have those concerns and questions, but she doesn't really care. She tells me that she's grown and my mother. I just wish sometimes she'd remember that she's a grandmother so she can learn to sit down and slow down, then I wouldn't have nothing to say to her. Eventually, she'll slow down and figure it out.

ESSENCE.COM: We all are trying to figure it out, but some of us need more time than others. Your mom criticized your fiancé on the radio. Does she not approve of Soullow?
NEFFE: I don't know if she approves, but for her to go on the radio and say that he doesn't do anything when she doesn't live in my house to know what he does is crazy. That's just how Frankie is. Unfortunately, her comments made the rumors worst: he's jobless and not taking care of home. Everyone thinks he's trying to be this aspiring rapper, but nobody knows him for who he is other than God, him and me. Now, how he feels about what she said I can't say, you'd have to ask him. He's the man of the house and can vouch and answer for himself.

ESSENCE.COM: We love how you stick by your man and congrats, we hear you two are getting married. When is the special day?
NEFFE: I don't know. That's something I'll let him decide. I was caught by surprise with his [proposal]. After being married for nine years and my recent divorce, I'm still in a healing process, so I don't want to rush myself into anything. Not that me and Soullow aren't in love, but it's also the first time he's ever been married. I want to give him the opportunity to make that decision. I do know that he wants to get married on a farm or ranch.