Log on to Essence.com every day this month for a new way to find love instantly.

1. FLIRT WITH MEN YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED IN

Touch a postman's shoulder when you thank him for directions, tell the bartender this is the best drink you've had in years, or mention to the 411 operator that you think he has a great voice. Practice makes perfect, and you'll want to be adept at flirting when a handsome catch walks into your life.


2. GET FIVE FRIENDS TO HOOK A SISTER UP

"Put out a dating SOS to your girls, telling them you'd like to be set up," says Julie Taylor, coauthor of How to Be a Dominant Diva (Avalon Press). Since the root of each setup will be a trusted friend, chances are you'll at least have a good time—or even five fun outings.

3. DO THE WORK FOR HIM

Already got a date? Do the planning and take the pressure off him. (Design your perfect evening in the process.) He will be so happy he didn't have to think about this that he'll have a great time before the date even starts.

 4. STOP APPEARING UNAVAILABLE

"Unconsciously we're driving men away because we're in 'get-it-done' mode," says D.C. radio personality Vikki Johnson, author of Addicted to Counterfeit Love (Kimani Press). Our to-do lists are miles long and our obligations are ocean-deep. But if you're constantly busy, men will think you don't have any time for them. One solution: Take a real hard look at yourself and figure out how you can create more free time to meet a partner.

5. SEEK SPIRITUAL GUIDANCE

The pastor of your church or the head of your place of worship is an unusual but excellent dating resource. "He knows everyone in the church, including who's single and looking," says Tosin Ola, aka Vixen, the woman behind The Bad Girls Guide blog (vixentales.blogspot.com). Try talking to him about possible prospects.

Go to the next page for more tips